How to Find the Right Therapist

If you have found my website by searching online, you are likely overwhelmed by the sheer number of therapists available in the Bay area. How in the world does someone choose if they don’t have a direct recommendation from someone they trust?

Here are some common-sense things to consider as you decide which therapist to choose:

1. Cost: Therapists in the Bay Area can be very expensive, with some therapists charging $200 or more per 50-minute session. For many, this is not a feasible option. Training centers, like the Marina Counseling Center offer skilled therapists at a fraction of the cost.
   
   
2. Location: With so many therapists to consider, it makes sense to limit your search to therapists that are fairly easily accessed by walking, biking, driving, or bus.
   
   
3. Orientation: All therapists receive training from a specific (or several) theoretical orientations. For those not familiar with the meaning of these orientations, it can feel like trying to order at a restaurant when you can’t translate the menu. It becomes essential to feel like you are allowed to ask questions of a therapist you are considering. All therapists should be warm and open when being asked about their views of the healing process. In other words, don’t be afraid to call several therapists and ask lots of questions! If you don’t feel good about your telephone interaction, consider it a “sign” and try the next person on your list.
   
   
4. Personality: Research shows that if a client doesn’t feel warmth and understanding from their therapist, it isn’t going to be very effective. It is a good idea to have one or two sessions with a therapist before deciding officially that they are a good fit for you. Consider it like test-driving a car. If the seats are uncomfortable and the style doesn’t match your preferences, you shouldn’t buy the car. A good therapist should recognize how critical this fit is and won’t be offended if you choose someone else. This is about you, so be assertive.
   
   
5. Availability: If you can’t meet with your therapist on a weekly (or at most bi-weekly) basis, move on in your search. Most practitioners covered by insurance are limited in how often they can see you. This may mean a limited number of total sessions, or in the case of HMO’s, can only see you once in a while.
   
   
6. Don’t Give Up: Many people try two, three, or more therapists before finding the right match. If you think you could benefit from therapy and are motivated to change, keep on searching. Feeling better and having hope are priceless!